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[stillbourne]

an interesting point I had not considered:

Help me grasp a detailed definition of these:

self-centered
vs.
self-preservation

I'll explain in a few hours, but I need help defining these.
GIVE DETAILS and EXAMPLES of your definitions of these.
Generalities wont help.

thanks.

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[crossbow1.livejournal.com]

I agree with what Jennifish said.

Also, this may not be relevant, but you have to be SOMEWHAT self-centered, because the other alternative is to be centered on someone else, and that's very destructive. So being self-centered is also a kind of self-preservation. Like in the abusive relationship example, if you've totally centered your life on the other person, it will inhibit your self-preservation instincts to leave. The trick is to learn to be self-centered but still, at the same time, pay attention to other people.

[stillbourne.livejournal.com]

If you were to make a scale on the most self centered thing you could do whoat would it e?
how bout the most self-perserving?

I need those kinda explanations cause the generalities are intangible to me right now.

[crossbow1.livejournal.com]

The most self centered thing I've ever heard: One of my friends was in the hospital for 6 months after a car accident, with about 20 broken bones and some brain damage, and the whole time she was in there her mother kept asking the doctors how soon she would die so she could collect the insurance. (True story - I've known this woman 15 years. After she left the hospital she refused to ever see her mother again, and movedin with her grandparents, whom I've met.) So that would be the most self-centered thing I can think of.

The most extreme self-preservation thing I can think of is the story of... oh, what was her name? Mary something. *looks it up* Mary Ingles. 1755, Virginia. This woman and her three kids (Well, 2 kids and she was pregnant) were kidnapped by Shawnee Indians. The accepted her kids into the tribe but she was kept as a slave by two white traders who lived there. Eventually she left by herself, leaving her infant baby with another lactating woman, and walked 1000 back to her home. She had to preserve herself, even if it meant leaving her kids with "savages."
http://www.geocities.com/~landerparker/ingles.html