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[stillbourne]

an interesting point I had not considered:

Help me grasp a detailed definition of these:

self-centered
vs.
self-preservation

I'll explain in a few hours, but I need help defining these.
GIVE DETAILS and EXAMPLES of your definitions of these.
Generalities wont help.

thanks.

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[stillbourne.livejournal.com]

where do you draw the lines?

When does the 'this isnt good for *me*' become 'all about me'?

in a way it is.
in a way its not.

how much do you allow another slack due to their human nature?
Likewise, how much slack to you expect others to give you?

I understand it will vary with the persons involved, but ...

[twilightstar.livejournal.com]

If the situation is in any way harmful to you (physically/mentally/emotionally), you have the right to preserve yourself from it. This is not being self-centered, in my book. If you still care about how the other party involved feels, but just can't involve yourself in the situation any longer, this is perfectly okay.

However, when you get to the point where you no longer care about how what you do affects others, that is when you become self centered. It can be a very fuzzy line, really, and a lot of it has to do with perceptions.

If you had a particular situation that was toxic to you, and you feel bad about having to remove it from your life because of others' feelings, you could sit down with that person and explain why you can't be involved in the situation any more (diplomatically, of course), and hope that they would understand. That way, you are still being considerate of their feelings (by at least giving them an explanation of why you are distancing yourself).

Does that make sense?